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My lifestyle | Community Involvement | Principles | Personal Service | Prospective Subs/Slaves Ms. Elorin is a lifestyle domina in San Antonio, Texas. What does this mean? Almost every professional dominant lists this on her website, to the point that it is almost meaningless. Be assured that it has meaning for Ms. Elorin. By "lifestyle" I mean that BDSM is part of who I am and how I identify. While I am many other things - mother, sister, daughter, lover - I am a dominant woman in every role. Almost all of my friends and family are aware of my chosen lifestyle of BDSM and power exchange, and the majority of my socialization occurs with people who will understand those choices. By no means does this mean that I eat, sleep, and breathe BDSM. I do things that are very "vanilla" every day. And I am capable of interacting at the bank, grocery store, shoe shop, and electric company without anyone the wiser to my lifestyle. I do not traipse around town in thigh high boots to run errands, and despite my penchant for collecting toys, I'm not seen carrying a flogger and crop everywhere I go. Yet to those in the know there is never any doubt as to my role, my choice, my way of life. What does my lifestyle entail? On a daily basis, I interact with others involved in BDSM. Some of them are friends via the internet, where I spend time chatting on instant messengers, visiting occasional chat rooms, and reading and posting at BDSM themed message boards such as the ones at Collarme.com. Some people are from BDSM personals sites bondage.com, where I have a profile. These people are most often looking for introductions into the lifestyle or their ideal partner. Some of those I interact with are friends that I see in person for dinner or lunch, to attend classes or discussions together, or just to socialize in my home or over a cup of coffee. And some of those people I speak to over the telephone. I have a Monday through Friday 8AM to 5 PM job and work part time in the adult entertainment field as a telephone dominatrix. I am also a part time professional domina, doing sessions in the evening and on weekends as requested by clients. While my every day may not be steeped in BDSM and power exchange, I consider the chatting, reading, and writing I do every day to be part of living a BDSM lifestyle. I am active in the local BDSM community.I attend munches, educational forums, social meetings, play parties, and the occasional leather run or "bash" (weekend long events). I participate not just for commercial gain, or to find new clients, but for personal enjoyment and the satisfaction I get from spending time with kindred spirits in mutually desirable activities. Central Texas has a wealth of resources in regards to education, socialization, groups, and experienced players for those involved with BDSM. In the past I ran a group named SADD (San Antonio Dominant's Dinner/Discussion, now renamed San Antonio Doms) for approximately 2 years, and I formed and led Fit to be Tied, a hands on peer taught San Antonio rope bondage group, for approximately 3 1/2 years. I am a former member of of SAADE in Austin, Voyagers, the Greater Austin Toymaker's group, and GWNN in Austin, TX, and in SAS/M, SASSY, and F2bT here in San Antonio. I am no longer active with my membership due to scheduling, but have in the past been active with San Antonio Doms and DDCT in San Antonio. There are a wealth of other groups whose functions I have enjoyed while not being free to explore their full membership. I enjoy playing with a variety of partners, and love learning new techniques for pleasure and pain. I hope to continue to be a valuable asset to the community while learning from my peers. If you would like to get in contact with any of these organizations, others in San Antonio or Austin, or find out about organizations that might be near you in Texas, please e-mail me and I will be delighted to guide you to the proper resources. Getting connected with others so you aren't alone anymore is the first step. Reaching out is the second. Acceptance comes somewhere in there, but is easier when others share your fears, joys, passions, and pain. You aren't in this alone. Principles I believe that to succeed within BDSM and with BDSM relationships, open communication is the keystone that everything else builds upon. Honesty is a principle which I uphold in every facet of my life. I also truly believe in openmindedness and tolerance of others' lifestyles, beliefs, playstyles, and pursuits. It is important not just within the BDSM communities, but in every walk of life. Being able to accept others without judging them as "wrong or right," competing with them, or getting lost in "one-up-manship" makes for a much smoother road of life. I follow these core beliefs of mine, that I view as fundamental to successful BDSM relationships and lifestyles, every day. That is why I consider BDSM to be a way of life and lifestyle for me. Personal Service I do have personal submissives that serve me, some long distance and some in person. Some travel to see me occasionally, but are essentially long distance submissives. I would like to have at least one submissive who lives in San Antonio to serve on a part time basis. I am also on the lookout for a full time submissive to serve me here in San Antonio. Filling that position will take time and patience on both my part and the prospective submissive's, and it will be a demanding role. Having said that... Visit "What I am looking for in a submissive or slave" to learn more about my requirements for service, how to serve me part time or full time, and what service might entail. |
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